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10 Signs That True Love Still Exists

February 14th, 2012 by

It’s been said that chivalry is dead and that the sands of time have corroded true love into a thing of the past. Though chivalry and true love are  rare, they are still very much a reality. Here are 10 signs that true love still exists.

1. Successful Marriages

The only thing more precious than a public promise of lifelong commitment, between a husband and wife, is the actual fulfillment of those vows. The members of successful unions share a time-tested bond, a bond so genuine that perhaps it ignites sparks of jealousy within your own heart. This is not a bond of perfection, but a bond that represents what true love encapsulates: hard work, growth, honor, and fidelity.

Occasionally, this bond is immediately noticeable. Perhaps it’s the contentment that they have with each other’s presence, where words are unnecessary. Or, it could be that energy that seemingly radiates when they’re together.

If one searches thoroughly enough, successful marriages can be found everywhere. There are marriages which have lasted 30 years, 40 years, and there are magical stories of people who have true love not because they found it, but because true love found them. 

Successful marriages are those which not only pass the test of time, they are unions that enrich and inspire, providing evidence that true love exists and giving you hope that you may someday taste it.

2. Newborns

Whether or not you like children, you can probably admit that there’s a magical nature surrounding newborns. There are few things which bring a smile to people’s faces as often as seeing a completely dependent, utterly vulnerable infant.

Infants are signs of true love for 2 reasons:

1.) Innocence

There’s an innocence that comes with true love. A fun, playful nature towards that special someone. It’s what makes a spouse tease the other, surprise the other, show extra affection towards the other when he/she thinks that nobody is watching.  Infants are a manifestation of this innocence.

2.) They are products of love

These young ones are the product of the physical, emotional, and spiritual oneness that results from sexual intimacy. The physical expression of true love is so powerful that it produces a miracle by creating life.

3. Arguments

Any substantive relationship – whether friendship, family, or romance – will have its fair share of battles in the forms of arguments, disagreements, or conflicts. This is not to be confused with relentless, unproductive arguing. Nor does this include physical or emotional abuse. Instead, this refers to healthy disagreements  which lead to productive resolutions and maybe even personal growth.

It’s much easier to avoid conflict than to address it, and healthy arguing shows that those who have found true love care enough, about each other and the relationship, to address the difficult issues.

4. Forgiveness

Forgiveness. How can a word that rolls so easily off the tongue be so difficult to practice? C.S. Lewis described forgiveness as the most difficult of Christian virtues, more difficult than abstinence itself.

Forgiveness is that healing gel which enables couples to survive their battles. Forgiveness doesn’t denote weakness. Rather, it represents strength. Forgiveness is the fortitude to not necessarily forget, but to overlook trespasses and act in an unvindictive manner. The virtue that is forgiveness embodies selflessness, humility, and love, all harmoniously packaged together.

5. Literature

Literature provides a quick way into the mind of a person whom you don’t know. Literature can also be an educational tool where you learn not only about true love’s reality but also about the depth of it.

A Grief Observed is a series of reflections portraying C.S. Lewis’s grief following the death of his wife. Whether or not you believe in God, you will see that true love is so real, so heartfelt, that it can cause a world renown Christian apologist to question the existence of God.

Gary Chapman is an author and international speaker on marriage and relationships. He’s respected by many as the unofficial expert on love and is best known for his Love Language series. Gary Chapman has If you want to know whether true love is real, simply read Chapman’s works, the literature of an expert who experiences true love, helps restore marriages, and share his wisdom worldwide.

These are just a couple of examples. There is a breadth of available literature that you can read to familiarize yourself with the nature of true love, infusing you with the education and motivation you want and deserve.

6. Celebrities

The stereotypical tales of celebrities’  downward spirals are far too commonplace. However, if one digs deeply enough, the celebrities who aren’t endlessly splattered over the latest tabloids may have something to contribute in the “True Love  Arena”.

You may not hear too much about Danny Devito’s marriage which has lasted since 1982, or Michael J. Fox’s marriage which has remained in tact since 1988. And then there are legends such as Iron Man A.C. Green who waited until age 38 to marry and find true love.

Denzel Washington, a household name, a man whose been voted one of the most beautiful by People Magazine, a man voted America’s second favorite actor for 2012, has been married for 29 years.  After minimal investigation, the reasons for his stellar reputation are obvious. As a man of integrity, he’s donated time and money to various institutions and continues to be a role model on and off the screen, all while maintaining a healthy relationship with his wife and children.

Regarding Hollywood, the media chooses to impress certain stories and images on society. Only when one dusts off the tarnished surfaces does the sparkle, that some celebrities have to offer, shine.

7. The Brain

Perhaps the most tangible evidence of love is that it can be “seen”. It may surprise many that advances in neuroscience make this possible. According to the Times Online, scientists studied the brain scans of couples who were in love, after showing those individuals pictures of their loved ones.

The brain scans showed  that viewing the pictures of their loved ones produced chemical reactions in the brain. Even more fascinating is that the brain scans of some individuals who were together for 20 years or more showed similar chemical reactions to individuals that had recently fallen in love! This signals  that love can very well be maintained over extended periods of time.

The authors of the book Hooked provide warning when they detail that brain centers which signal “passionate new love” are the same parts of the brain which detail infatuation. In other words, brain studies cannot differentiate between infatuation and new love. This should be of special concern to teens whose brains are still molding and impressionable. Above all else, this is evidence that relationships and love should be approached cautiously.

Love exists, it can be “seen”, and it can be maintained through the years. However, it is not to be confused with infatuation or lust. Love is not to be taken lightly. 

8. Friendship

Google “friends let you down” and you’re greeted with a staggering 680 million+ results in .22 seconds. The internet is saturated with quotes and poems about true friendship as well as personal accounts of friendships dissolving due to betrayal. In a society which tends to trivialize friendship along with romantic relationships,  “friendships” are often recycled far too quickly. 

Genuine friendship is rare. A genuine friend will accompany you through your  greatest achievements and harshest shortcomings. True friendship takes time to develop and mature.The best of friendships can sometimes lead to the best of relationships and friendship will be at the core of any substantive romance. 

Friendship is what enables a couple to stay together following horrific tragedies that impair a spouse’s physical abilities or health. This is because true love is more than sex or self fulfillment. True love embodies that fun and emotional intimacy that couples experience as a result of their friendship.

If you have a genuine friend, you should thank him/her. Not only because of the fact that true friendship is rare, but also because your friend is a sign that true love exists: that friend of your’s will, or already does, bring that friendship quality to a romance or marriage.

9. Chivalry

Chivalry, although rare, is certainly not dead. While friendship serves as the foundation of a romantic relationship, chivalry stems from the dimensions which allow a relationship to transcend friendship: attraction and sexual desire. Chivalrous men and women are evidence that true love exists because often times these are the people who find, respect, and understand true love.

Chivalry is more than being “nice” or holding open doors. Several people are skilled in the art of charming others, and many will perform acts of kindness providing that they have an attentive audience. Chivalry comes from the heart and is a way of life. Determining a person’s way of life and heart takes time. This is why chivalrous individuals are best discovered through careful scrutiny and word of mouth from trusted sources.

The chivalrous woman respects herself, knowing that there’s a sexiness in dressing in a way that leaves something to the imagination. She understands that she has more to offer than her body, nor does she give herself to undeserving men.

It’s the chivalrous wife  who encourages her husband, building him up in a world that would rather break him down.

The chivalrous man would never pressure or manipulate a woman into sex. He knows that a woman is his equal and that being an authentic man means respecting women, not taking advantage of them. He excuses himself from conversations which include crass remarks about women.

It’s the chivalrous husband who buys flowers for the house because he knows his wife appreciates it. It’s the chivalrous husband who prepares a bubble bath for his wife when she’s had a day she would prefer to forget.

10. You

You yourself are a sign that true love exists. More specifically, it’s your desire that serves as the sign. Would you define yourself as a hopeless romantic? Do Jane Austen’s novels and adaptations unlock the chambers of your heart? Once you discover what desire is capable of, you may start viewing yourself as hopeful rather than hopeless.

Best-selling author and psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud details the principles of personal and professional success in 9 Things You Simply Must Do to succeed in Love and Life. The first principle he discusses is desire, which he describes as one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Dr. Cloud explains that the invisible world is where the visible world originates and that our physical surroundings and environments originate from within the souls of human beings.

He couldn’t be more right.

The school which you attend exists because of the desire of people to learn, the desire of others to teach, and the desire of an architect to imagine and fashion that building into existence. Your favorite TV shows/movies exist because of  an audience’s desire for that movie and the desire of screenwriters, actors, directors, and producers to make it a reality.

The desire for innovative communication fuels today’s continually evolving social media phenomenon.

Desire is a powerful tool. The next time you face a mirror, congratulate yourself, knowing that you – your desire – is evidence of true love. If it hasn’t already, that inner passion may yield visible results.

Jane Austen Adaptation, “Emma”. Mr. Knightly Falls For Emma:

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Links & Sources

  1. Regarding Times Online Brain Scans article:
    True Love and Brain Scans
  2. Frank and Anita Milford full bio with pictures

Author: Olivier

Olivier writes many of the site's articles, some articles requiring many hours of research; he also helps with site strategy/focus. He has a Bachelors in Accounting, Masters in Theology, and is currently an accounting manager for a teleconferencing solutions company. In his spare time he enjoys reading, writing, NFL, and movies.

36 Responses to “10 Signs That True Love Still Exists”

  1. Sally says:

    Awesome TG!! I especially love the part about chilvarous men and women. =)

  2. Lizardbath says:

    Loved this, such a great Valentine’s day read :)

  3. Anonymous says:

    Wonderful article TG! I enjoyed reading it :).

  4. ThatGuy says:

    Thnx everyone! :-)

  5. Sophie says:

    This is a fantastic article! Thank you!

  6. ThatGuy says:

    Np, Sophie :-)

  7. wow. . Dis article has really given me hope. .that sumway,sumhow true love exists and sumday m gona find it. . Thnx t.g. . God bless :-D says:

    pink

  8. ThatGuy says:

    Np, pink.

  9. Mpyle says:

    Readng dis myks 1thnk abwt ol da impossble in da wrld… Nyc piece

  10. mbeke says:

    am glad to read thz!

  11. amao babatunde says:

    This is indeed a nice and logical write up

  12. sharrise says:

    My heart feels warm after reading this. It gives me hope not to give up on true love.

  13. Ceebaby says:

    Now i believe that true love exist

  14. Elizabeth says:

    This was just what I was searching for – And although I have found my true Love it saddens me to say I dont think he really loves me-
    All I ask for was honesty ,I do not feel I was it for him _ His Eyes checking out every girl at the club ,But at the same time running off any guys that made me Laugh or that I showed interest in/after returning from Bathroom would see them running out the door_literally .So maybe the chase was fun but to walk into the bar invited by someone else to see his arm around another girl,which he quikly dismissed her.other time he pocket called me heard him calling someone else babe.and another time I had to drive 2 hrs out of town came back early.he was spooning with this 21 year old her claiming nothing happened-Actions Speak Louder Than Words……Hes trying to come back again Lets see if with no Sex he still loves me and wants to be friends= Time is precious

  15. NickeyNick says:

    Awesone article!!!!!!

    I actually thought all was lost am happy to see this. I do have a question though, is it possible that couple ( Frank and Anita Milford) that in there 81years of marriage that not once that neither of them cheated on the other????

    See am a hopless romantic and the one time my own mum gave me boy advise was her tellin me, that it is nice to have special feeling for someone but one thing u shuld know that being cheated on is inevitable. Men will always cheat on you and u only have to accept it and appreciate the fact in the end it is u they (bf/husband) come back to. I was so mad I hated boys almost my whole high school time. To rub salt to the wound my own sister after dating for a year came and told me mum was right! so I better face reality fast and this story I have of waiting, I shuld just get over with it so that whoever I will settled down with wouldnt get that privilege of knowing he was the only one I ever had when he cheats on me. My parents were both not waiters and have been married for 21yrs but my dad.
    was her first and only.
    Hey I just want an examlpe if nt two of people who have been married for more time or like my parents and, cheating was never an issue they had to deal with in there time together or just confirm for me that it is not a reality I have to face.
    Also I will know if to listen to my sister or just continue with what I always believed was right for me.

    Do answer my question pliz!!

  16. cwaita says:

    Now I believe true love exist and ths wat I’m experiencing now.

  17. Olivier says:

    Mpyle – thank you!

    Mbeke – thanks!

    Amao – Thank you. Logic was one of my goals in this article and I’m glad to see it didn’t go unnoticed.

    Sharisse – Thank you for the feedback. Giving “hope” was one of my goals. As long as you have hope, there’s still a chance. W/O hope, all is lost.

    Ceebay – thank you for the feedback.

    Elizabeth – I’m happy that you were able to find what you were looking for. One of the reasons I wrote this is because, shockingly, there are not enough articles like this online. Lots of the ones out there are trite, superficial, and not well thought out. Also, do yourself a favor and drop that man that you’re with. He sounds immature and disrespectful.

  18. Olivier says:

    NickeyNick – Sorry for the late response. Glad you liked the article.

    I’m sorry, but your mum’s advice is, quite possibly, the most moronic piece of advice i’ve ever heard. Do lots of men cheat? Sure. However, not ALL men do this. There ARE men that are looking for more. Just take a look around at this site.

    As for specific examples, I can tell you that my parents have been married for around 30 years and infidelity has never been an issue. My aunt and uncle have been married for around 15 years and infidelity has never been an issue.

  19. NickeyNick says:

    30years!! I want that too. Your shuld thank God you have a good example to look up to. Thank you so much Olivier for that atleast now I have some kind of hope. :-):-):-)

  20. Olivier says:

    You’re absolutely right, NickeyNick. I should be much more appreciative of the example I have right in front of me. I don’t know if you’re already a registered member, but if you aren’t, please consider joining our community. This can be a great support forum.

    And, you’re welcome :-)

  21. Yusuf usman says:

    Looking for lady to help me build my standard education.

  22. Val says:

    I notice you forgot one, the heart!
    http://doestrueloveexist.com

  23. Angel says:

    Perhaps love is blind,true love has a triangular shape with 3 reasons: 1. Intimacy 2. Passion 3. Committment.

  24. Anonymous says:

    probably as the man, according to my opinion cheating is an non negotioble offence.if we real care about our lovely why we should hurt them.apparently cheating is bad spirit people who do that driven by devil.cheating is an inadequate romance between couples.so please be faithfull all times and put your trust in god.

  25. samson from emalahleni says:

    lets love unconditionely and not forget that if you are really in love means you are gifted.and if you are gifted you will expitionally tempted. nothing is good comes easy in this planet earth.

  26. Sultana says:

    Love is gift of god

  27. julie says:

    I’m glad I found this article. It’s beautiful. It gives me hope. I’m married with my husband for almost 6 years. He doesn’t deserve me. He didn’t cheat but he has an issue. He yells most of the time, almost every two hours for no reason. I know he is a good guy, deep inside of him, he regrets after the yelling scene. Example. If the internet is working slowly, he will start yelling because of that and call my name to DO something about it or just to tell me (laugh) how stup..d the computer is, and call the computer thousands of names. Another, if I accidently do anything he didn’t want me to do, he will scream at me, call me names, and then after 3 minutes regrets and apologized.
    If he is mad at me, omg he will call me names, scream, if I ignored, he will start insulting my parents (no sense insults) just to call my attention. AGAIN, he will apologize 3-5 minutes after, he will be, oh I’m so sorry, it’s just too hot today, and I had a bad day,… and put the sadness face ever! telling me how much he loves me, and he didn’t mean it. I always ended up forgiving him.
    I want more… I know there is something more for me. I am a sweet, lovely, caring, good person. I know I can find someone that can share “quality time” with me. Someone that will not be annoying with my boring conversations. Someone who will appreciate all the care I love to give to my love ones. Someone who would love to go alone with me anywhere and don’t worry about nothing else. Someone who will put me first, and never insult me for no reason. someone who don’t think that yelling is a solution…
    The weird part of my life, I didn’t have babies, after that many years of trying, there was a problem with me, but they did a small surgery and I suppose I should be okay, but it never happen. Everything happens for a reason.
    I’m still married, but I am ready to move on. I finally feel stronger than ever. I know this is not the way I want to be thread. I know this is not the life I want to live. I know this is no the kind of environment I want to spend time with. I know this is not the huge, kiss, I want to receive. I know this is not the kind of apology I want to get…
    I know there is something unknown for me out there. My husband is understanding the situation now. He knows I’m moving out soon. He agrees, I don’t deserve a man like him (that’s why I know he is a good person ..deeply inside of him there is an angel). he thinks I deserve someone better, he has a problem, he wish he can be the man, but he can’t… he says he loves to death but it’s his behavior…
    I think… he is b.s…. if he truly loves me, he should change but he doesn’t want to… he doesn’t love me… and it’s not sad anymore… it used to be… I am tired of crying. I am tired of being the victim… I just to be my worst enemy. I waste that many years of trying to fix someone… trying to have a better marriage… I can’t work alone…
    I NEED love, real, pure, sincere, honest love… and I will find it :D
    thanks!

  28. joseph says:

    absolutely great one.pls keep writting more.God wil build u as u try 2 giv us hope thru dis article of your.luv it,luv u

  29. elijah CHERISH says:

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    true love does exist.honost is the key or sign that true love exist

  30. ola says:

    true love didnt exist it dies many years ago

  31. no name says:

    Some people will make us believe that true love doesn’t exist.man need to appriciate everything we 4 them cos it all out of love.bt. They rander make you fell like you r nobody.as 4 me don’t see myself dating anytime soon

  32. uneek says:

    wow , um speechless i want it to hapen to me too…..

  33. Google@MissChristiLuv says:

    :)

  34. columbus chibuzor says:

    now i know true love exists

  35. mJ says:

    thank,z

  36. Vic says:

    To me i tink true love still exist

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