5 Things to Do While You’re WaitingOctober 21st, 2012 by Crystal
We are all hoping that our waiting will end with us finding and marrying that special one. But how can we use our time while we are waiting to our benefit? What can we do with the days that get long? How can we make the journey of waiting an exciting one?
1. Enjoy and make the most of your life NOW
Sometimes as someone that is waiting, it is easy to think “When I finally get married, then is everything is going to be great.” Marriage can be wonderful but also comes with its own challenges. Don’t have your heart so set on marriage that you forget to enjoy your life now and make the most of it.
We don’t know the future and some of us that made the decision to wait till marriage may be waiting a little longer than others. Don’t let your life pass you by just because your desire for marriage isn’t a part of your life’s picture yet.
Go for your life goals — and dare to step out and try to reach them. Don’t hold yourself back just because your spouse isn’t at your side. You have one life; live it to the fullest. Live a life of gratitude.
2. Seek to be a life-long learner.
Aim to learn as much as you can from past dating relationships that may either have gone well or may not have gone so well. Don’t beat yourself up for what might not have gone well but seek to grow.
Try to learn also from the various married couples around you. Lean what works for those that you see have solid marriages — tuck away what you learn so that you can pull it out for your own future relationships. Learn also from the mistakes of others so that you will not repeat them yourself.
Don’t stop your learning in the area of relationships, but also seek to be a well-rounded person who learns about all kinds of things and develops many interests. Take advantage of the opportunities before you—you never know when you’ll be introduced to new people that also share in your learning adventure or shared interests.
3. Focus on becoming the spouse that you want to be.
It’s important to be willing to evaluate your personal strengths and weaknesses, and take active steps towards addressing your weaknesses. Use your time as a single who is waiting to improve areas like learning to cook delicious meals, improving areas of your attitude or character, practicing your communication and listening skills (good marriages require good communication), overcoming a habit or weak area in your life that you want or need to change.
Try to grow and set small goals each day to become that person that you would want to be for your future spouse.
4. Find constructive ways to deal with the loneliness.
Let’s face it: We all realize that the world is geared towards couples. We all experienced bouts of loneliness at one time or another. It is important to find constructive things to do when you feel lonely and when you feel like you’re the only one out there in the world waiting till marriage.
On a non-lonely day make a list of ways that you can build yourself up, or bring encouragement to someone else in those moments. We all have urges at times and long to know what it is like to experience what we have not yet known (sex). We were created that way. In those times, find other healthy things to throw your energy into.
5. Don’t give up — Stay positive!
Don’t give up on the journey of waiting till marriage. Be true to yourself and the decision that you have made. Stay positive and remember that things that are worth having or waiting for aren’t always easy, but in the end, they are so worth it. Remember that you are not alone. Your outlook in life will affect how you perceive things. Whatever the outcome of your waiting, hopefully you will always be glad that you did!