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5 Things to Do While You’re Waiting

October 21st, 2012 by

We are all hoping that our waiting will end with us finding and marrying that special one. But how can we use our time while we are waiting to our benefit? What can we do with the days that get long? How can we make the journey of waiting an exciting one?

1. Enjoy and make the most of your life NOW

Sometimes as someone that is waiting, it is easy to think “When I finally get married, then is everything is going to be great.” Marriage can be wonderful but also comes with its own challenges. Don’t have your heart so set on marriage that you forget to enjoy your life now and make the most of it.

We don’t know the future and some of us that made the decision to wait till marriage may be waiting a little longer than others. Don’t let your life pass you by just because your desire for marriage isn’t a part of your life’s picture yet.

Go for your life goals — and dare to step out and try to reach them. Don’t hold yourself back just because your spouse isn’t at your side. You have one life; live it to the fullest. Live a life of gratitude.

2. Seek to be a life-long learner.

Aim to learn as much as you can from past dating relationships that may either have gone well or may not have gone so well. Don’t beat yourself up for what might not have gone well but seek to grow.

Try to learn also from the various married couples around you. Lean what works for those that you see have solid marriages — tuck away what you learn so that you can pull it out for your own future relationships. Learn also from the mistakes of others so that you will not repeat them yourself.

Don’t stop your learning in the area of relationships, but also seek to be a well-rounded person who learns about all kinds of things and develops many interests. Take advantage of the opportunities before you—you never know when you’ll be introduced to new people that also share in your learning adventure or shared interests.

3. Focus on becoming the spouse that you want to be.

It’s important to be willing to evaluate your personal strengths and weaknesses, and take active steps towards addressing your weaknesses. Use your time as a single who is waiting to improve areas like learning to cook delicious meals, improving areas of your attitude or character, practicing your communication and listening skills (good marriages require good communication), overcoming a habit or weak area in your life that you want or need to change.

Try to grow and set small goals each day to become that person that you would want to be for your future spouse.

4. Find constructive ways to deal with the loneliness.

Let’s face it: We all realize that the world is geared towards couples. We all experienced bouts of loneliness at one time or another. It is important to find constructive things to do when you feel lonely and when you feel like you’re the only one out there in the world waiting till marriage.

On a non-lonely day make a list of ways that you can build yourself up, or bring encouragement to someone else in those moments. We all have urges at times and long to know what it is like to experience what we have not yet known (sex). We were created that way. In those times, find other healthy things to throw your energy into.

5. Don’t give up — Stay positive!

Don’t give up on the journey of waiting till marriage. Be true to yourself and the decision that you have made. Stay positive and remember that things that are worth having or waiting for aren’t always easy, but in the end, they are so worth it. Remember that you are not alone. Your outlook in life will affect how you perceive things. Whatever the outcome of your waiting, hopefully you will always be glad that you did!

11 Responses to “5 Things to Do While You’re Waiting”

  1. Nikki says:

    While I’m Waiting- John Waller

  2. crystal says:

    yeah Nikki-i thought of that song in relation to waiting til marriage one day and it gave me a new perspective with it all—very cool.

  3. K says:

    That was a very cool article! Pretty on key with a lot, and also well-written.

  4. Sally says:

    Thanks Crystal! I’ve read articles with the same title before; but they mainly focus on #3. Thanks for broadening our perspective on this!

  5. foster says:

    this is a good stuff.

  6. nur says:

    Good article :)
    Im 22 and waiting,,,,,,,,

  7. Anonymous says:

    Amen! Waiting on The Lord and my wife

  8. Sandra says:

    3. Focus on becoming the spouse that you want to be. – Whether if you end up marrying or not

    Brilliant idea, thanks, but no thanks

  9. Joshua P. says:

    I’m 24, and I’m still single, although I feel like I’m getting closer to being financially stable enough to start looking for someone again. You hear people say this stuff about “These folks in church who wait for marriage, they all got married in their early 20’s, so they didn’t have to wait that long.” But the truth is, while young marriages do happen, they aren’t as common as you think, and they aren’t as enjoyable as you think either. Very few people now days are able to obtain the MONEY that is necessary to get married, when they are 20-23 years old. Young kids who are happened to get a good paying job early on are the only ones who can do that. And that’s a small percentage of the overall population of people in their early 20’s. Most people who wait DO have to wait until their mid to late 20’s to get married (like I’m having to do) because it takes so long for most people to climb the financial ladder. So if you are my age or a little older, realize that there are plenty of other people out there just like you who can’t get married as early as they want to. So know that you aren’t alone.

  10. Joshua P. says:

    And to add on to what I said above, most people in their early 20’s aren’t mature enough to handle relationship problems in a healthy way. There are two people I can think of (but will not name) who I grew up with, they are younger than me, and both of them have some major personality flaw that I can see will cause (if they aren’t already), major problems in their marriages because they are too selfish or not empathic enough. They are both young men, and they are either too weak at times, or too focused on themselves at other times. Usually by 23-25 most people have gained the personality traits necessary to be a good spouse, and that means being selfless and honest. But some people never grow up.

  11. Eyiwumi says:

    Thank you all for sharing.
    You never can tell how far your write-up and messages can get to.
    Am from a small town in Kwara state of Nigeria and I must say that the write-up and the song nikki shared was of tremendous blessing to me.
    One thing I have learnt in waiting is that God will test you and if you fail, He’ll give you another opportunity.
    Marriage is big to God and He will make it happen for you once you have developed the necessary character and skills. Hence, we must keep working on ourselves.
    God is our strength!
    I Love and Celebrate you all…

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