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Mike handles all of the programming and design work for Although he still writes the occasional article, he spends most of his time these days creating new site features and keeping everything organized. Mike is web software developer by day, and is in school to become a psychologist. In his free time Mike enjoys running, biking, and movies.

Virgin Diaries Star Julie Kerr Talks About Her New Feature-Length Film, and LGBTQ Waiters

About Julie… Tell us a little bit about you! I’m Julie, I’m 32 years old, I was on Season 2 of The Virgin Diaries, and I’m almost finished with a movie I made about waiting until marriage called Geek Loves Punk. It’s an independent comedy.  I’m currently running a Kickstarter Campaign to finish it. When […]

The WTM Podcast: Episode 2

Listen to the second episode of The WTM Podcast! Community regulars Vince and Julie talk about and several waiter-relevant issues.

Being single is hard for those who wait. Let’s fix that.

If you’re waiting until marriage to have sex, being single is a special kind of torture. It’s tempting to think “oh it’s extra hard because I’m single AND still a virgin” but that’s not where most of the pain comes from.

Study: What qualities make you an ideal romantic partner?

A new study, titled Gender Differences: What We Seek in Romantic and Sexual Partners, offers some novel insights about what qualities we look for in romantic and sexual partners.

Virgin Villains: 4 Characters Who Make Waiting Look Evil

Hollywood HATES waiters-till-marriage. TV and movies often paint us cruel, stuck-up villains who try to vomit abstinence all over our peers. Here are four of our favorite virgin villains, and some lesson we can learn from them.

6 Romantic Beliefs That Can Destroy Your Relationships

Waiters-till-marriage are deeply idealistic and romantic to the core. For the most part, that’s a good thing. But there are a few common romantic beliefs that can prove extremely harmful if you let them influence how you approach your long-term relationships (and marriage).

4 Reasons Why Pushing Daisies is the Ultimate TV Show for Those Who Wait

Pushing Daisies is an award-winning TV series that ran for two seasons from 2007-2009. It’s a fantastic show whether you’re waiting or not (I have never met a person who didn’t love it), but for those who wait it’s even better. Here are 4 reasons why Pushing Daisies has such extra-special appeal for waiters-till-marriage.

How to Handle Romantic Rejection: 7 Tips

Getting rejected is part of the dating process. If you want to find the right person, you’ll have to push through a lot of ego-bruising rejections along the way. Here are some tips on rebounding quickly and getting back in the game with better odds.

4 Cool Statistics About Abstinence in the USA

There is much discussion about whether it’s “right” to wait, whether to educate people on waiting, etc., but not much is said (or studied) about the millions of people in the US who actually wait. We are a quiet minority, but a sizable one. Check out the latest stats on how many people wait until marriage, and who they are.

Interview With a Successful Waiter: Ian

Check out our interview with longtime community mentor Ian, a happily-married man in his forties who talks about what it was like back when he was a young college student waiting till marriage for sex. Ian has been a source of hope and insight to many us in the community, and now you can read more about his story and discover valuable tips on becoming a successful waiter.

A Streakers’ Love Story

This real-life love story is almost too amazing to be true, but it very much is. Two streakers on opposite sides of the world find each other and fall in love. Click for the whole story, and video of their first in-person meeting.

Short Film: Love Tap

A five-minute reminder to not let love pass you by. Developed as original content for Walt Disney Pictures Short Films division. This is not directly related to waiting till marriage, but waiters are all suckers for a good love story, so I still think you’ll like this.

5 Myths About People Who Wait Until Marriage to Have Sex

Waiting till marriage gets a bad wrap in popular culture. Preachy teenagers and old conservatives have become the face of abstinence, but that’s hardly a realistic depiction of most people who actually wait. Here are 5 myths about those who wait I’ve heard over the course of my life, and the realities behind them.

A Bitter Film for Nice Guys, and Rejection Tips for Girls

Here are two videos that appeal especially to nice guys and nice girls. They’re not exactly about waiting till marriage, but they’re still about relationships and dating, and I guarantee you that at least one of them will make you die laughing.

The 7 Reactions that Girls Will Have When You Tell Them You’re Waiting

You’ve done it. You’ve got a date. It’s a happy time for you, Mr. Alpha Male. She’s pretty, she’s interesting, and most importantly she agreed to go out with YOU, but how will she take it when you break the news that you’re waiting till marriage?

The Stork and The Jewels (short story)

The Stork and The Jewels is, in effect, a fable about love and waiting. And it’s amazing. Published in 1952 by RL Bruckberger, this gorgeous short story has long since gone out of print, but thanks to a friend who discovered and transcribed it for me, you can read it here, while it lasts. Enjoy.

The 7 Emotions You Feel When You Discover Your Partner’s Sexual Past

Here’s the situation:You’re dating somebody that you really, really like. In fact, you just might love them. But there’s a problem: They’ve got a sexual history, and it’s eating you alive. As a virgin who is waiting till marriage, dealing with a partner’s sexual past is one of the greatest and most painful challenges you’ll face in romantic relationships.

And Everything Was Perfect [comic]

Here is this month’s adorable relationship comic to keep you inspired and full of warm fuzzies. Enjoy!

5 Reasons Why “Chasing Amy” is a Great Movie for People Who Wait

If you are waiting till marriage, you’ve probably had the unpleasant experience of having to deal with a partner’s sexual past. Chasing Amy is all about this dilemma, and contains some special messages that you’ll be able to appreciate much more than the average moviegoer.

The Top 11 Awesome Benefits of Waiting Until Marriage

Waiting till Marriage may start out as just a decision about sex, but it becomes so much more than that. It comes to define you, to protect you, to keep you focused, and to hold you true to every ideal you’ve ever kept close to your heart. Why wait until marriage? Because it’s who you are. This website’s most popular article, now with a new addition (#11).

True Love by GB [comic]

Enjoy this not-so-little comic about love and heartbreak. It’s not about waiting till marriage, but I thought you might like it anyways. I pulled this from reddit, but if anybody knows the original source, please tell me!

Lecture: How Waiting Creates Healthier Attitudes about Sex in Marriage

Just a heads up to anyone who isn’t particularly religious: This lecture is set in a church, but his main arguments are based on psychology and his own experiences (not on spirituality). Otherwise, this is a great lecture with arguments for waiting till marriage that I genuinely haven’t heard before. Big thanks to Sarah Elizabeth in the forums for finding this!

The Triangular Theory of Love: What it Means for Those Who Wait

This is as close as science gets to defining “true love” in psychological terms. The image above is a simple representation of Dr. Robert Sternberg’s famous Triangular Theory of Love. You can use it as a metric for judging the quality of your relationships, based on how many “points” of the triangle they are able to achieve. If you hit all three points, you have true love. If you only hit one or two points, it’s something else.

5 Videos That Will Make You Cry (If You’re Kind of a Softy)

Most great internet videos make you laugh out loud, or maybe shock you. These videos make you cry. But don’t worry. It’s a happy cry, not a sad cry. This has nothing to do with waiting till marriage, but given that many of you are hopeless romantics to the core (or at least idealists), I figured you might like them. So grab a tissue box, and click play.

The 5 Secrets to Dating Somebody Who’s Had Sex Before

You’re probably going to date several people for various periods of time before you get married. Depending on how picky you are, some of those people you date may not be waiting till marriage like you are. This can become a source of conflict. Here are 5 tips on getting the most out of a relationship with somebody who’s had sex before.

The Top 5 Arguments Against Waiting Till Marriage

Sooner or later, you are going to end up discussing your decision to wait until marriage with somebody who will try to poke holes in your decision to wait. Sometimes people will throw arguments at you that you hadn’t considered before, and other times it’ll be the same ol’ shill. Here are a few arguments against waiting that I’ve heard over and over, starting with the ever-popular “You wouldn’t buy a car without test-driving it!”

Do any guys wait until marriage?


Do any normal people wait until marriage?


Short Film: Signs

Part of waiting until marriage is keeping your hope alive. Love stories help you do that. Here’s a great one. Enjoy.

The Pyramid of Personal Sexual Philosophies [PIC]

Where do you fall? Where do you want to? Which level is right for you? For much more detail on the Waiting Till Marriage Zone, check out The 3 Levels of Sexual Abstinence

The 3 Levels of Sexual Abstinence

People have different boundaries when it comes to physical intimacy, even among those who are waiting till marriage for sex. All people who wait are not alike in the bedroom. In general, I’ve seen waiters take stances towards sexual activity that falls into one of three categories.

I am waiting till marriage, but my boyfriend/girlfriend has had sex before. Any tips?


My girlfriend/boyfriend is waiting till marriage, but I am not. Any tips?


What if I feel like I need to have sex to save the relationship?


6 Signs That Your Friend Has Met Their Soulmate

When you make it to your 20s, you start to see the people around you meet and fall in love with the boys and girls that they will eventually marry. It’s just that stage of life; the stage when most people meet that extra special someone that they will be with for the majority of […]

The 7 Deadly Sins of Waiting Till Marriage

When you decide to wait until marriage to have sex, you’re inviting a whirlwind of emotions onto yourself. Your journey will take years, and during those years you are going to experience several different attitudes towards your decision to wait until marriage. Some of these attitudes are good and will reaffirm your decision to wait; […]