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Women Have All The Power (Too Bad They Don’t Know It)

September 25th, 2011 by

Short Introduction

Women Have All The Power: Too Bad They Don’t Know It was written by Michael J. Lockwood for his own daughters, urging them to have meaningful relationships by not giving up the ‘piece’ to every guy that hits on them; to help them distinguish who really cares and who doesn’t.

He says to his daughters in the introduction, “The best way for you to learn how to recognize a good man is for me to be one.”

He also says “I thought I’d never tell….then I had daughters.”

About the Author (Michael Lockwood)

Michael J. Lockwood is a strong Christian man. He is an airline pilot and a former U.S. Air Force Captain. He attended the U.S. Air Force Academy for his higher education.

His faith is very evident throughout the book such as in his acknowledgments: “I also thank God for allowing me to experience all of the joyous and painful moments that have contributed to my growth in relationships.”

Key Points

1. The ‘Piece’

Lockwood encourages women to keep the ‘piece’ until marriage…

This is what Lockwood refers to sex as. If it doesn’t make sense right away, think of it as a ‘piece’ of your heart or soul. Or a ‘piece’ of your body. Not every man gets a chance to touch you at all or touch you in certain ways. Lockwood encourages women to keep the ‘piece’ until marriage. Why? Well, he has a few chapters on it, but I’ll sum it up into his top 10 list:

  1. You can date multiple men without being considered a slut. (He says tramp)
  2. You maintain control of your life and emotions
  3. You maintain your spiritual covenant (For those of you who WTM is partially based on religious reasons)
  4. You never have to worry about getting pregnant.
  5. You don’t have to be concerned about contracting STD’s.
  6. You can allow a man to show his true feelings for you and not the false ones that sex produces.
  7. You can focus on your personal goals.
  8. Men will respect and value you.
  9. Your marriage has a better chance of succeeding.
  10. Your husband will cherish you.

One of my favorite quotes his gives on keeping the piece is as follows: “A woman usually gives sex in hopes of gaining the bigger prize—the relationship. A man, on the other hand, gives in to a relationship to gain the bigger prize—sex.”

2. Give Him A ‘Peace’

…the secret is to rely on your nurturing spirit.

Since we’re WTM, we want to know other ways to show and express affection. Lockwood addresses this: “While you’re still in the dating phase, the secret is to rely on your nurturing spirit. The following is a list of pampering secret that will keep your man’s engine running and build loyalty in his heart. These are NOT first date techniques. These are used AFTER you have established an exclusive relationship.

  1. Pet him. Play with his ears, rub his back. Do not rub in a way that will make him think he’s about to get some. (I feel personally like that is a blurry line and hard to distinguish….)
  2. Rub his feet after a long day.
  3. Compliment of things that he looks really good in. ‘Inspect’ before he leaves: fix his tie, etc.
  4. Make him lunch and bring it to his work.
  5. When you go out to dinner, feed him his dessert.
  6. Leave a sweet note under his pillow.
  7. Prepare his favorite meal for him.

3. No War And ‘Piece’

This is why you kept the piece in the first place.

Here he is encouraging women not to feel weird about gettin’ freaky once they’re married. You’re married for goodness sake! But some women have trouble finally letting go of inhibitions, etc.

He has one section is titled ‘A Freak in the Sheets’. Some might think it’s weird that this guy is giving sex advice, BUT he says “Okay, here’s the secret to blowing your husband’s mind in bed.” Heeelllooo??!!! How many women’s magazine try to do that ?? He tries to focus on not worrying about anything — “This is why you kept the piece in the first place. You’re not worried about who he’s going to tell or what your reputation will be in the morning. It’s your husband, for God’s sake.”

My Overall Impressions

My sister thought the book was a sham—the guy seemed a bit extreme to her (he is in some parts), but overall I think he’s just really trying to hit home to women that you NEED to save SOMETHING for marriage.

Ideally he says 3 things: sex, living together, and always cooking for him. BUT, if you’ve already slept with him, at LEAST he says you need to keep the others for marriage. Otherwise, why pay for the cow when you can buy the milk for free? (My own analogy, some of my friends and I love it) I agree. As a girlfriend, I always want to be there for my guy, support him, and enjoy emotional and SOME physical intimacy. BUT, by saving some things for marriage I feel that I set myself apart from many women and set myself up to be more the ‘marrying type’. Maybe not the one the guys are crazy about when we are in high school and college, but they’ll start to see how I have respect for myself and carry myself differently, and in turn, respect me.

In closing, I’d like to share my favorite quote from this book:

…if you play your cards right while dating, a man doesn’t have a choice but to honor the authority you hold as a woman. By virtue of being a woman, you already hold the best cards in the deck. There isn’t a man out there who should be able to bluff you if you know you have a perpetual winning hand. Understand the value of your cards.(Cards being self, dating, commitment and marriage)

I’ve had plenty of guys try to “bluff” me and it definitly intrigues them when they aren’t winning/can’t win. But, they’ll still try. Girls—watch out for those guys—is basically what Lockwood is advising. It can be reaaalllly difficult to tell sometimes.

Author: Sally

Sally helps keep the Girl's Only of the forums section hoppin' and she's working on getting the Song List going. She's getting her degree for teaching and would love to teach 6th grade someday. Sally loves to travel and hang out with her friends. Her favorite times are weekends or breaks with her girlfriends.

15 Responses to “Women Have All The Power (Too Bad They Don’t Know It)”

  1. Aditya says:

    Excellent piece of work Sally! Besides the fact that this is so well presented, I like how you have managed to relate your life as a woman to this! What I like the most about this article is that along with why, it also states HOW to stick to the norm of waiting! Although I have not read the book yet I guess this is what makes it class apart from most of the other publications. I am sure all readers, especially women, will be able to connect to these ideas at a much deeper level & will actually find it useful in laying down the foundation of a successful love and/or married life! Mr. Lockwood does an excellent job by showcasing WTM as the ‘acid test’ that will keep the wrong people at bay from the likes of us, who seek a meaningful relationship!

    Kudos to both Mr. Lockwood & Sally! I look forward to read more of your articles Sally.

    Mike thanks a bunch for this articles section… this is really a cool place to share such effective ideas & inspirational stuff! Kudos to you too!

  2. ThatGuy says:

    Sally, very good job!!

    Your review is straight-forward and practical. Like Aditya said, I too enjoyed how you applied it to your personal life and shared some of your female perspective. The author is definitely on point with ways of showing affection; numbers 1,3,6 & 7 would really make me happy!

    I love the fact that he encourages woman to let themselves go once married. And to give sex advice…I think that’s awesome! And you were incredibly on point with those magazines giving sex tips all the time, so what’s wrong with the author doing it?

    Your favorite quote from the book is an awesome quote! If only more women carried themselves in such a manner!

    Thanks again, Sally!

  3. Sally says:

    Thanks guys! Really appreciate it! 😀 Definitly worth the time I put into it.

  4. Sally says:

    I just forgot to mention this…haha So I know you guys mentioned you really liked getting a woman’s POV, but I have a question for you all. On the tips, I was unsure about #1. Like in general, I like to touch people on the shoulder when connecting inconversation (if I know them, not creepy) or on the arm. I feel like that gives guys the wrong message. What’s good to do then? I know this might seem overanalytical, but it’s what I’m wondering about.

  5. ThatGuy says:


    When you say “what’s a good thing to do” are you referring to men that you’re in a relationship with or male friends or guys that your just talking to etc. etc.? Lemme know.

  6. Sally says:

    I know what to do when in a relationship lol. I can be touchy then. I mean guys I just know like acquantance/friend.

  7. Anna says:

    Brilliant Article Sally! Really like it well done!

  8. Sally says:

    Thanks Anna ! 😀

  9. ThatGuy says:

    Okay Sally, so for male friends/acquaintances:

    It’s a realllly grey area as I’m sure you already know. But, the good news is you probably have nothing to worry about. When you say you “touching” during conversation, are you referring to a quick, half second touch with only the fingertips touching the guy? If you’re talking about anything similar to that, than you’re most likely fine. Although I should say that the person and the context make a difference. If you touch some guy that thinks he’s God’s gift to women, he’s gonna think you’re into him. If you touch a guy that is into you, he might read too much into that touch. If it’s a friend that knows you really well, then he knows that you like to touch and won’t make anything of it at all.

    So, you probably have nothing to worry about. Is there a chance that you could give off the wrong message? Sure, but you take that risk with everything; just by being friendly or charming some guy might think that you’re into him. Just by giving some guy the time of day he might think that you want him. So, I think you’re fine. At the end of the day, most guys know who the good girls are.

  10. Sally says:

    Ahh, well that makes sense. Thanks ! Don’t really ahve any guys that know me really well, so doubt they would know that about me lol. LIke I mentioned before on here, a guy friend who liked(likes?) me said I should “town down the charm” if I’m not into a guy. I was a bit confused….talked to my friend who also knows him and she said it’s no biggie, just two people who know each other and one happened to develop feelings for the other that weren’t reciprocal.

  11. Krish says:

    This was awesome and sooo fulfilling 😀 It makes the wait seem soo small compared to the results :)

  12. Sally says:

    Thanks Krish ! Glad you liked it/helps you 😀

  13. Google@MissChristiLuv says:

    I been sayin this for yeeeeeeeeeeaaaaarrrrrrzzzzz lol ^_^ But nobody heeeeeeeeeeaaaaaarrrrrrzzzz me haha 😛 Listen up ladies! The power is in your hands! And by in your hands, I mean in between your legs lol! Sorry to be so graphic but OMG it is soooo true haha ^_^ Take your power back lol! 😉

  14. Lela says:

    I found this article to be very encouraging for a middle age woman who has been married once and very particular about dating. Very discouraged with the men 50 and above who act worse than high school boys. It really comes down to them not willing to put in the time to develop a relationship. Just telling a man no I am waiting till I get married again. They often respond with your not a virgin or several words to sway you. If your self esteem is not inorder you can get caught up. I encourage every woman to love yourself first and develop a true relationship with your creator. Many times you will walk away from men you really care about and although it will hurt, know that God has a real King waiting .

  15. Joanna says:

    Well, damn now I have to buy the book.Also, I know this has been so long, but if this commentator called @ThatGuy is seeing this, please let me know I have questions for you! Okay? Thanks

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