Dating Site Review: OKCupid.comJune 1st, 2011 by Leo
OkCupid is the world’s most popular free dating website. Unlike other dating sites like match.com and eharmony.com, which require you to pay monthly, you can use (nearly) the full extent of OKCupid’s features completely for free (they make most of their money on advertisements like Google and Facebook do). If you’re interested, there is a paid “A-list” account upgrade available, which makes your profile more prominent in search results and earns you a couple of other perks, but you can easily get by without it.
The core of OKCupid’s profile matching system are its user-created profile questions. You can answer as many questions as you’d like, or invent your own. For each question you indicate your own answer, and then choose the answer(s) you will deem acceptable for a potential match. You can also choose how important the question is to you.
The more questions you answer, the more it tailors your profile and your search results, and the more likely you are to get a solid match.
Here’s an example of some of OKCupid’s user-created quiz questions…
I selected “I never have!”, “No”, and “Only after the wedding”, respectively. And then I decided that anybody I would date should feel the same so I selected the same answers under the “Answers I’ll accept” category. I then decided that the question was “Mandatory.” You can also choose “Very important,” “Somewhat important,” “A little important,” and “Irrelevant.”
For all questions, OK Cupid asked me if I would like to answer the questions privately. I didn’t mind if they were public so I left those boxes unchecked. You can also add an explanation to any question you answer. I could have attached a note that said “I’m waiting till marriage to have sex, but I’d consider kissing, etc. after a few dates if I really liked the person.”
Searching for People
The site matches users based on their activities on the site as well as their answers to questions. Users can also search for matches based on their match percentage (how much they have in common) as well as age, religion, and location.
I didn’t post a photo so I can’t say much about the “Quickmatch” feature but it compares your profile picture to someone else’s and each user rates the other on a ‘five star’ scale. Users that are consistently rated higher are provided with more attractive matches. A-List (paid) users can search by star ratings as well.
I did have some complaints regarding the WTM crowd. I performed a search and specified the location as ‘anywhere’ to include, in theory, every user on OkCupid. I limited the search as much as possible to include people who were waiting. I found very few profiles and those that were waiting were usually religious. I answered questions specifically to weed out any potential matches that weren’t waiting but I don’t feel like my questions were taken seriously.
I specified “Mandatory” on many of my questions regarding sex and many of my matches weren’t even close in that category. OkCupid matches users on ethics, sex, religion, lifestyle and dating. Many of my matches were good fits ethically but not sexually. I wish I could have picked an emphasis on which category I was matched on. For those who are WTM I feel like the ‘sex’ category would get potential matches in the door and then we could talk ethics and so forth.
OkCupid has another feature, the quiver, that provides users with 3 matches. All of my matches have been pretty poor. Many of them are single mothers. I don’t have anything against single mothers but they certainly don’t line up with my uber-virgin profile and I am in no way mature enough to be dating someone with a kid.
Overall OkCupid offers a lot of nice features for free. I would recommend using the site to meet people and make friends but not for serious dating. It’s less focused on getting couples married and more focused on getting people together. Although it doesn’t seem like there’s many people who are waiting, this could be chalked up to how shy users are. I would guess that most people who are waiting don’t fly that flag very high.