Do any guys wait until marriage?February 20th, 2010 by Mike
Yes! Waiting-till-marriage guys are a hugely under-represented group because they can be so quiet and lonely about their decision. A girl virgin will go to church every Sunday and wonder where all the guy virgins are. A guy virgin will go to the bar Saturday night, drink a few too many beers, secretly wonder where all the girl virgins are, then sleep in on Sunday.
Ok, that’s a caricature, but in my experience it’s not that far from reality.
Still, guys who are waiting are significantly more rare than girls who are waiting, but they do exist in higher quantity than you’d expect. In fact, three of my close friends are guys who are waiting till marriage (ages 21, 24, and 29). Plus, you know, I am a guy who is waiting till marriage. So that’s four guy virgins that I could name in my immediate friend group. I know others too, but they’re just acquaintances.
My point is: if I can rattle off 6 guys who are waiting, then that means there are plenty more where that came from. The trick is to find one guy; that’ll give you access to others. We tend to gravitate towards eachother.
If you’re a girl who’s waiting and you’re set on finding a guy who’s waiting, they are out there. Don’t completely give up hope. Really, I think it feels hopeless sometimes on both sides. I can tell you that as a guy I’ve often become convinced that there are no girl waiters. And as a girl who’s waiting you could assure me that I’m totally wrong. Same deal with guys.
If you’re a guy who’s thinking about waiting till marriage, then know that you won’t be alone. Well, not totally alone anyway. Over the course of your life you tend to attract friends who are similar to you. Just let it happen. If you can’t find any, try a church. There are some really cool Christian guys out there who like to do all the other normal guy stuff like lifting weights, blowing things up, binge drinking, making stupidly-headstrong decisions, and talking about cars/video games/sports…they just have that little piece of faith at there core, which tends to make the a bit more philosophical and caring, which can be good for conversation.
Admittedly, guys who are waiting are significantly more rare than girls who are waiting, but they are out there.