Do any normal people wait until marriage?February 20th, 2010 by Mike
It is sad that people – I have heard a lot of this – believe only ‘Jesus Freaks’ wait. It cheapens the idea both for devout Christians, people of other faiths and agnostics like myself. I am not a freak. Neither are my brothers and sisters from all faiths and those with none. We are just individuals that refuse to give up on our ideals.
-BK, from the comments
I see this question a lot in the search results for this site. I’m assuming by “normal people” you mean “people who won’t say the name ‘Jesus’ every five seconds”.
And the answer is: Absolutely! I know lots of virgins who are virtually undetectable. Looking at them you’d have no idea that underneath their seemingly-normal exterior they are actually a deeply thoughtful, ambitious person who assigns a lot of meaning to sex and relationships.
Many different types of people wait until marriage. You’ll have the in-your-face, hyper-Christian types (usually the younger ones), but there’s just as many quietly-faithful types, agnostics, and atheists that are equally as committed to waiting.
But even for those that are a little weird: You need to understand where some of that “wierdness” comes from. You’re talking about people who’ve made a very atypical decision. These are people that are in a large way going against the grain of everybody else around them. They’re standing still and holding onto their virginity when all of their friends and acquaintances are throwing theirs to the wind. In many ways, waiting till marriage creates a completely different mentality towards life.
You can feel very different, like an outsider. And because of this it can be reassuring to find others who are like you. Some people are OK surviving out in the sexual wild west. Some people amplify the importance they place on their difference and actively seek out others like them, find them, and thrive in like-minded communities.
Other people start to feel a little angry or overly-zealous about the righteousness of choice that they made but nobody else seems to make. This can make them kind of in-your-face, especially when they first decide to wait. This usually tappers off with time and age, as they learn to accept others.