Episode #6: The WeddingAugust 14th, 2016 by Selina
The summer 2015 wedding came closer and closer and both my fiancée and I were nervous about a few things. Would our extended families get along? Would the mesh of cultural ceremonies all blend in well so as to not offend anyone? Would everything happen on time?
In the Eastern traditions, weddings often last up to a week in ceremonies. Ours was considered short – only about three days. The first day were the pre-ceremonies, the second the religious ceremonies and reception, and the third a goodbye meal for the family.
During the day, we were both were trying hard not to think too much of the night which would take place after the reception (our “wedding night”). But we found out that we had gotten a free upgrade to the best suite in the hotel – complete with a fireplace and a whirlpool inside the room!
Was it the best night ever? It depends on how you describe it. Since both of us were WTM, we were obviously fairly awkward. But the emotional closeness that the first night brought was something neither of us had experienced before, neither with others nor with ourselves together, and because of that, it felt so much more special and intimate. Yes, it was awkward, yes we weren’t pros, yes it hurt a bit – but there was something about laughing with each other at our awkwardness; there was something about the serene peace while cuddling with each other, and the sense of accomplishment when things finally fell into place.
I had been very worried that things wouldn’t happen for weeks due to my own worries about how things fit etc – but I shouldn’t have worried. A lot of research beforehand and some great clear communication between each other both for months beforehand and during the experience itself – and we were fine.
All I can say that we were so happy that we waited – for almost 28 years each. Although we both have been proud of being waiting until marriage all of our lives, we are also now very much enjoying our this new aspect to our married life So for all of you WTMers – the wait is certainly worth it.