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Interview With a Successful Waiter: Ian

April 8th, 2012 by

Waiting Till Marriage Success Story: Ian

Check out our interview with longtime community mentor Ian, a happily-married man in his forties who talks about what it was like back when he was a young college student waiting till marriage for sex. Ian has been a source of hope and insight to many us in the community, and now you can read more about his story and discover great tips on becoming a successful waiter.

Author: Mike

Mike handles all of the programming and design work for Although he still writes the occasional article, he spends most of his time these days creating new site features and keeping everything organized. Mike is web software developer by day, and is in school to become a psychologist. In his free time Mike enjoys running, biking, and movies.

12 Responses to “Interview With a Successful Waiter: Ian”

  1. Sally says:

    Awesome idea Mike! Thanks for the “interview” Ian; it was great!!! :)

  2. Olivier says:

    Thanks, Mike and Ian. It’s really nice and important to hear from everyday people who made the choice to wait!

  3. Slayerofdragon says:

    Thanks Ian and Mike. The interview was inspirational and it made me laugh :).

  4. Ian says:

    Thanks guys. I hope the article was at the very least a bit of amusement into who I am, and maybe a little more than that in terms of one boy’s journey on the WTM path. :-)

  5. Anonymous says:

    Definitely needed to read that, thanks for sharing!

  6. dodgedude says:

    Great job Mike and Ian!!! Like slayer, I was smiling and laughing through the whole thing…but in a good way!! So inspirational I loved it! :)

  7. destined4something says:

    I loved reading this interview guys!!! As an older waiter, this was really encouraging :)

  8. Anonymous says:

    Thanks for the great interview, Mike & Ian :)

  9. Joan says:

    Thank you so much for this interview Mike and Ian! It answered some of my questions and also made me laugh at the same time :)

  10. Snape says:

    Wow. Cool story.

    His non-waiting partners actually respected his waiting!

    That is a comfort to me. I can date and have fun with girls without having sex.

  11. donutweesa says:

    I really loved what you said such as these lines:

    “you’re making a concerted effort to follow your faith, or to follow good judgment, and that all you really want is to give a gift to your future husband/wife that is unmatchable.”

    “And it all goes just fine, as long as you take your time, and remember to truly LOVE each other through it, not just get to The Act. Lots of tenderness, lots of touching, lots of kissing.”

    “I do recall vividly knowing the moment I knew I wanted to marry her. Away on a trip. Up in the middle of the night sort of wrestling with sleep. I got up… washed my face… looked at myself in the mirror… and I knew. A little voice from God. And it was done. I knew we were to be together.

    It took 2 more months to figure out asking her, and screwing up the courage to ask her and all that other good stuff. :-) But it was definitely a slow dawn… because there was never a moment I didn’t think about her and there was never a moment I thought of really being without her by my side. Sometimes it just takes you a moment to see what’s there in front of you clearly.”


    “We were in love with each other. We were WITH each other. The rest of it slides to the background and falls off. And from that question onwards I got better about it and stopped putting it up like it was an obstacle. I know all of that was still a bit like comparing apples and oranges, but it gave me a way to feel more concrete about putting the past aside, listening to her intentions and regrets and commitments in the present, and focusing on us in the future.”

    These really made me think a lot and helped me believe that there are people in the word who value the choice that I have made. A life-choice. And the last quote really eased my fear about one day dating a non-waiter and to finally realize that their presence with us NOW in the present and the commitment in the future can outweigh the past.

    I also love that this interview is a real actual story. A real experience, really solidifying and reinforcing my commitment.

    Thank you Mike and Ian!! You’ve truly made my day and made me understand and grow past these doubts! Wish you the best!

  12. Anonymous says:

    Thank so much! I needed this.

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