Interview With Successful Waiters: Billy And April
May 20th, 2012 by Olivier
Billy and April (not their real names), a married couple, are two successful waiters who agreed to share their story via an interview with WTM.org. Learn more about their abstinence journey in this exciting “2 for 1″ interview. You should also check out their hubpage to read even more about them!
- WTM.org: Tell us a little bit about yourselves.
- Both: We are both from Texas, but currently live in Indiana where Billy goes to school. Billy is a student of physical therapy, and will graduate in May 2013. April teaches at a local elementary and middle school. We are both strong Christians who love God lots!
- WTM.org: I understand that you two dated throughout high school and college, but how did you guys actually meet?
- Both: We met in middle school and started calling each other “boyfriend/girlfriend” in the 7th grade, but didn’t start dating seriously until sophomore year of high school. We had the same homeroom class all throughout middle school, so we sat near each other in class a lot.
- WTM.org: Billy, what was your first impression of April? April what was your first impression of Billy?
- Billy: My first impression of April was that she was a lot of fun to be around and pretty cute. Her athleticism was also impressive, and it didn’t hurt that she was on the cheerleading squad.
- April: My first impression of Billy was that he was a cute “new kid” when he came to my school in 6th grade. All the girls liked him, and he was a really good athlete, so what’s not to like? I was not initially romantically interested in him, but definitely considered him a great friend and fun to be around.
- WTM.org: When and why did each of you make the personal decision to practice abstinence?
- Both: The decision is rooted in our faith in God. We follow Jesus and make lifestyle choices based on what we interpret the Bible to say about how we can best reflect who Jesus is on earth. So there was not a particular moment we made the decision; it was kind of just understood.
- WTM.org: When you started dating, were the both of you virgins?
- Both: Yes, we were both virgins until our wedding night. It was very comforting knowing that neither of us had previous experience, and it has made our sexual relationship very special to know that it is an intimate and exclusive bond that we have with each other.
- WTM.org: Can you describe the discussion that occurred between the two of you where it was agreed that you would not have sex with each other unless married?
- Both: We did talk about it, but it wasn’t as much a discussion as a sort of stating of the obvious. We were both on the same page, and we held to it.
- WTM.org: Abstinence is not easy. Did you two experience any temptations or struggles as you dated? How did you work through that?
- Both: No, it certainly was not easy. We made sure to openly and explicitly communicate to each other what we felt the appropriate physical boundaries were, and we did not cross them. The key to our success was the openness and honesty we shared with each other before doing something that may make the other uncomfortable. Communication is key.
- WTM.org: April, was there a moment when you knew Billy was the man you were to marry? Billy, was there a moment when you knew that April was the woman you were to marry?
- Billy: I can’t think of any particular moment, because there were so many! Many times I have been and am reminded of how special April really is. She has many great qualities that make her a terrific wife and future mother.
- April: There wasn’t one exact moment, but it did surprise me how early I started seriously considering Billy as husband material. As early as junior year of high school, I would say that I was sure he was the one.
- WTM.org: Could you describe the proposal (when, where, how)?
- Both: It was pretty extravagant… Billy made this video called “I Love You So Much I Would…” and it had tons of crazy things that he did that were pretty funny and super sweet. At the end of the video, April was told to go upstairs to walk through a scavenger hunt Billy had prepared in her house (with the help of her sisters), and the last item led her to the front door, where Billy was on a knee with the ring. This was the day before Thanksgiving, and April thought Billy was staying in Indiana that year, so she was surprised!
- WTM.org: Many would argue that abstinence is ridiculous because you need to “test drive the car”. Would you say that abstinence strengthened your relationship and, ultimately, marriage? If so, in what ways?
- Both: Abstinence definitely strengthened our relationship and marriage. If someone thinks they need to “test drive the car” before making the commitment to marriage, it is likely that the foundation of their relationship is not all too sturdy. There is way more to marriage than just sex, and the “quality” of sex should not be a determining factor in whether or not to marry someone.
- WTM.org: Okay… so I HAVE to ask this. Without making yourselves uncomfortable, and without being too graphic, could you please describe the wedding night? If it isn’t too much trouble, I’d like to hear from each of you as to get a male and female perspective.
- Billy: I probably would have benefited from seeking the counsel of another young, married man whose opinion and integrity I trusted. I was unprepared for how exactly to approach the experience, which I think ultimately led to unmet expectations. We eventually learned and improved, but the beginning could have been better if I had taken the time to consider April’s thoughts/desires more.
- April: I was very excited, and the wedding night was great, but afterwards I was left wondering what the fuss was all about! It was not as awkward as it could have been because were both on level playing fields and kind of just laughed it off. Plus, by the end of the honeymoon, I definitely found out what was so great about sex!
- WTM.org: What advice would you have for single virgins / “waiters” who are becoming discouraged?
- Both: Stay strong. We do not know what it is like to wait past 22 years of age, but we do know that it was undeniably worth it for our pre- and post-marriage relationship. If there is someone out there for you, you are going to wish you would have waited. If it turns out you do not marry someone, that is okay too! You can have a completely fulfilling life without a spouse. God has chosen a different path for you.
Visit Billy and April’s hubpage for more!
Author: Olivier
Olivier writes many of the site's articles, some articles requiring many hours of research; he also helps with site strategy/focus. He has a Bachelors in Accounting, Masters in Theology, and is currently an accounting manager for a teleconferencing solutions company. In his spare time he enjoys reading, writing, NFL, and movies.
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