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Virgin Villains: 4 Characters Who Make Waiting Look Evil

June 30th, 2013 by

1. Hilary Faye from Saved

Hillary Faye: Shut up, Fornicators!

Hilary Faye is the arch-villain of the movie Saved (a well-written, bitter parody of Christianity). Hilary is the typical “evil queen cheerleader” type, multiplied by every bad Christian stereotype ever. She’s conceited, racist, vaguely anti-Semitic, and sickeningly self-entitled.

Villainous acts…

Attitude towards waiting…

Hilary Faye is painted as a true believer in waiting till marriage, in words and actions. She has no boyfriend, and no references are made to any kind of sexual past. Instead, she channels her (implied) sexual repression into acting hateful and judgmental towards everyone.

2. Veronica from Saved

After being disillusioned by Hilary, Veronica will most likely end up completely giving up on waiting in college.

Veronica is Hillary Faye’s acid-tongued sidekick. She’s fond of yelling “fornicators!” at new couples and warning them that they’re going to Hell for having sex.

Attitude towards waiting…

Veronica is blatantly hypocritical about waiting till marriage, so much so that her hypocrisy is a running joke in Saved. In one scene she will lash out at people for having premarital sex, and then a few scenes later she’s shown alone in her room, begging God’s forgiveness for her own sexual past.

3. Quinn Fabray from Glee (season 1)

Yet another cross necklace. That's become like the villain's uniform in High School dramas.

Quinn Fabray is another “evil queen cheerleader” type and stars as the villain of the hit TV show Glee, a musical comedy-drama centering around a High School glee club. Quinn changes over the course of the series, but in the first season she is basically every negative stereotype about waiters-till-marriage all rolled into one.

Villainous acts…

Attitude towards waiting…

Quinn is president and founder of the school’s Celibacy Club. She cheerfully repeats the club’s motto: “Remember, it’s all about the teasing and not about the pleasing!” while lecturing her entourage about the importance of staying pure and not going all the way.

She’s also a comically-huge hypocrite. In one scene, she makes out with her boyfriend, feels guilty, and stops in the middle to pray. The next episode reveals that Quinn has been cheating on her dutiful boyfriend (and having sex) with the school’s bad boy/bully character. By episode 4, Quinn is pregnant with the bad boy’s baby, and tries to convince her dutiful boyfriend (who’s been waiting on her) that it’s his.

4. Mary Anne Bryant from Easy A

Mary Anne Bryant from Easy-A: Jesus tells us to love everyone, even the whores and the homosexuals.

In Easy A, Mary Anne Bryant is the leader of the fictional Cross Your Heart Club, a group (as the main character puts it) “Dedicated to shoving their beliefs down peoples’ throats.” The main character of Easy A is Olive, played by Emma Stone. As Olive struggles to deal with nasty rumors about her sexual history, Mary Anne Bryant fuels the rumors and socially tortures her.

Villainous acts…

Attitude towards waiting…

Marry Anne is a true believer, like Hillary Faye from Saved. She doesn’t have sex, so she’s not technically hypocritical. But she’s also miserable and clearly channeling some kind of repression into rage and cruelty. For her, sexual purity is something that makes her better than other people, something she can hold over people’s heads and condemn them with, and something that gives her power.

Side note: If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend watching Easy A. It might look like the type of movie that you’d dislike as a waiter-till-marriage. The previews suggest that it glorifies promiscuity and villainizes abstinence, but it’s more about skewering the idea of caring at all what other people decide to do about sex, including waiting. Without giving too much away: The hero of the movie (Emma Stone’s Olive) is a virgin.

Are these characters accurate depictions of those who wait?

Equation: Are real-life virgins like those on TV?

The above characters are four of the most popular depictions of waiters-till-marriage in television and film, and they all have one thing in common: They’re all teenagers. Imagine if every cause were represented by its youngest members.

For comparison, the average age of members in the community is around 22-years-old. The average waiter-till-marriage is older and more mature than the waiters featured as TV/movie characters. Their hormones have cooled down, they’ve grown to know themselves better, and they don’t need as much drama to keep them stimulated.

So on average, we’re more tolerant and less preachy than the villains on this list, but derivatives of these bad attitudes still linger in some of us (myself included).

What can we learn from these bad examples?

Apple (symbolizing learning) with waiting till marriage rings engraved on it.

Bad quality #1: They’re angry about waiting

Scroll back up and look at the faces of all those characters. Notice the expression? Their faces are pinched with contempt, and (if you watch the movies) their voices are sharp and grating — they’re angry about waiting. It shouldn’t be that way. If you feel deeply angry about waiting for prolonged periods of time, you’re doing it wrong.

There’s no shame in feeling bitter, or alone, or resentful about waiting sometimes. You’re going to have those days. But most of the time, your decision to wait should be something you’re happy about. If it’s not, take time to figure out why it’s making you miserable, before that nameless frustration burns you alive.

Prolonged anger about waiting is a sign that that you feel torn between what you want and what you have. Maybe you want to have sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but you feel pressure from your church to wait. Or maybe you like waiting, and you really hope that you find another waiter to date/marry, but nobody around you seems to care about waiting like you do.

Bad quality #2: They try to force waiting on others

You’re entitled to feel angry and bitter about waiting. It’s a noble choice, but it gets hard sometimes; I think most non-waiters can understand that. And as long as you only talk about your own struggles with waiting, you’ll get lots of support and sympathy. But the instant you try to force your bitterness on others, then you become a villain.

If you can think of your decision to wait as yours alone, completely unrelated to what other people do, then you will never end up looking like the characters on this list.

Author: Mike

Mike handles all of the programming and design work for Although he still writes the occasional article, he spends most of his time these days creating new site features and keeping everything organized. Mike is web software developer by day, and is in school to become a psychologist. In his free time Mike enjoys running, biking, and movies.

14 Responses to “Virgin Villains: 4 Characters Who Make Waiting Look Evil”

  1. Shelisa says:

    Lissa in ‘Awkward’ is another example of a virgin villain and another character used to mock Christianity . I don’t think that the majority of waiters are like this in real life. In Hollywood Casual sex and promiscuity is celebrated , the concept of waiting isn’t understood and is subsequently scorned.

  2. Mike says:

    @Shelisa – Thanks so much for the tip! I may eventually add Lissa to this list, but it takes a while to research each character. If you can point me to any specific episodes that feature lots of Lissa villainy, that would help a ton.

  3. TinyDancer says:

    Great article!

  4. Mike says:

    @Tiny – Yay glad you liked it! I think I’m going to do another one on “Foolish Virgins.” There were a bunch of characters that didn’t fit with the theme of this one because they were just bumbling idiots (e.g., Jack McBrayer in Forgetting Sarah Marshall).

  5. TinyDancer says:

    @Mike, haha, yes! Jack McBrayer’s character in FSM is hilarious! I love the montage of Russel Brand’s character giving him a crash course on doing the deed, hah.

  6. Julie says:

    It’s too bad that Christians are shown as jerks or that virgins are shown as jerks. I like the article; very well done.

  7. Julie says:

    I also appreciate that the article reminds me to feel good about my decision to wait; even if it’s hard at times.

  8. Sally says:

    Thanks Mike! I’ve seen those movies, so I know exactly what you’re talking about. :) Another character would be Grace from The Secret Life of the American Cheerleader-she’s another stereotyped, Christian, WTM, cheerleader, who ends up sleeping with her bf and never getting over it.

  9. Sekaya says:

    This was a very good article. You’re discernment is on point. Continue to share these types of insights, cause it’s so needed. You’re helping people. You’re helping your generation.

  10. Hope says:

    I know I am so late to this post but I just had to put in my two cents. I really don’t understand why virgins are portrayed this way and it is getting ridiculous. Why is it so hard for people to understand that being a virgin doesn’t equal freak or a holier than thou type. Not saying they don’t exist but c’mon most people don’t fit the stereotype.

  11. Gift says:

    Great article Mike, I love this

  12. Lizbizz says:

    What about the non virgins?

  13. Matt says:

    I just want to add something related to Bad Quality #1: If you are waiting, make sure it’s for the right reasons. If you don’t really want to but you feel pressure from others, such as a church, then you’re not doing it for yourself and you should consider leaving that church.

  14. Elliot says:

    Never push waiting on others, they have made their decision. I’m extremely happy and excited to be waiting till marriage because it makes my wedding day so much more valuable and special. Secular shows like glee should show all the men and women who are lost in their life and regret losing their virginity to someone who didn’t care for them or respect them. Hold yourself to a higher standard and watch as you reap higher rewards. Waiting to lose your virginity on your wedding day is a way to achieve lifelong happiness. Make sure the person you are courting is someone you can see yourself at age 90 and still be happy with. Sex is not special if given to any loser who asks. Yell in their face and say no! Love yourself and demand respect, set boundaries, and focus on yourself. No one is going to start waiting till marriage unless they truly want to, only help the friends that want to. Doesn’t matter if you’re fat and ugly, popular or unpopular, you must respect yourself and find the one who truly respects you.

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