Why I Stayed a Virgin Until Marriage (LemonDrop Article)June 6th, 2011 by Leo
In a recent article, a staff writer for the popular sex and relationships website LemonDrop “came out” as having waited until marriage to have sex. She includes lots of details on meeting her husband (who was a virgin too) and how their sex life blossomed after they got married.
Here’s the first part…
When I met Jack, I felt pretty much every romantic, clichéd feeling ever — fireworks crackling, the imaginary sound of opera music, weak knees … the whole nine.
I decided when I was young that I wanted to wait for sex until I fell in love. The problem was, that being an incurable romantic often means being incurably picky. Oh, I dated — a lot. But if I didn’t feel the lightning bolt, I tended to break things off after one or two dates. By age 21 — though not for lack of opportunities — I was still a virgin.
And then finally, I found the one. Here I was, in love with Jack; and, conveniently, he loved me too. Which is why we decided not to have sex.
Jack was an “accidental” virgin too — certainly not opposed to sex, but a total gentleman who made it a point never to push boundaries with girls…
Selected quotes from the article…
I certainly don’t go around preaching abstinence to everyone; it was just something I practiced personally.
When we realized that we were novices in the effects of sex on a relationship, we made the decision to make sex something we worked on together, as a married couple.
Our first time was a train wreck. Glorious and really intimate — but a train wreck, nevertheless. But it got better eventually! Way, way, way better.
People ask me if I’m worried that I missed out on having sex with other guys….I don’t think I was genetically coded that way…why would I need someone else to sleep with when the love of my life fulfills me?
I’ll never have sex with anybody else … and I don’t care.
That’s just a taste. The whole article is great, and very much worth a read.
Interesting things to note:
- The staff writer didn’t use her real name to published this article. Instead, she used the psuedonym that LemonDrop authors use when they want to write about something really, really “sensitive”.
- The comment thread on the article is huge, and 90% positive.
- There are several articles in their abstinence category that are worth reading.